Wednesday, April 04, 2007

Life With Vickie

They say that when one door closes another door opens, and that has been true throughout most of my life. Although in 1998, when door number 3713 opened I got the grand prize.
Let me go back a little to a time before then...
On the dating scene there had been doors closing, one after another, then one day in April of 1993 during a regular Wednesday night gig at the Empty Glass,the door opened and in walked the most beautiful woman I think that I had ever seen.
The band had literally just gone back to the stage after a break, when I announced that we'd be taking another break, and to the amazement of everyone (including my bandmates...) we did. Sorry folks, but I had to meet this woman.
She was brash, bold and utterly beautiful, with the bluest eyes I had ever seen, and flaming red hair...I was a goner.
Her name, Vickie Sutphin.
Now don't ask me why, but I got seriously tongue tied, I went to her table and introduced myself (in my ultra cool suave voice, I might add...). Her girlfriend must have thought I was a lunatic, because she gave me a look that could have melted a glacier.
None the less, I just felt like I had to know this woman... the one time in my life that being bold paid off.
Now let me go back to that door opening and closing analogy...
Fast forward to 1997, some major doors were about to close. First, my Mother got pretty sick with Cancer, and Vickie and I went to New York to be with her to help her prepare for the ultimate journey. Vickie had just come out of the hospital prior to our leaving. When we arrived in New York, my Mother's home was in disarray. As sick as Vickie was at the time, she still put her health aside, and began to organize my Mother's house including getting on her hands and knees and scrubbing her floors. We left New York to return to Charleston, but before leaving my Mother sat me down and said the following: "Charlie, in this woman, you have all that you told me that you ever dreamed of, she's decent, and kind, and she is not afraid. She is one of the boys, but she is all woman in every way. You could never have asked for a better partner. Whatever you do, stand by this woman. Two weeks later my Mother died.
On Saturday April 4th 1998 Vickie became my Wife, and the door of my life swung open for good.
Now I won't tell you that our life together has been all smooth around the edges (let's just say that I was a typical idiot...'nuff said !!), but I will say that I've finally grown up and realized the good fortune that I've had being Vickie's Husband.
In this woman I have the best friend I've ever had, she is someone who I can cry to without feeling less than a man, she is someone who is my biggest cheerleader, and best motivator.
Today is our anniversary, I wanted to tell the world how happy I truly am, and how grateful to the universe I am for opening the door and allowing me to step up to the table and to the best feast of all, life with Vickie.
Happy Anniversary honey, thank you for the the gift of our life.

When you support live music today tomorrow and always, this is the prize that you can get...love times love.