INK (It's Not Kool)

I was watching Nightline this evening and I heard yet another tragic story about a youngster taking their own life because of being bullied.
As I listened, I was reminded that death has hit home for me in this way as well. My wife took her life two years ago. I listened and I cried and I sobbed, it just does not make sense to me why the practice of bullying seems to be cool thing to so many people.
Like many, I've had my share of being pushed around when I was young, but I learned to fight back, and as I got older I learned to do this with my words rather than my fists. Today I feel like I can handle most situations where I feel intimadated. A firm hold of my faith has been one way to deal with this.
The problem is that for many of our young people, they don't have these coping mechanisms. So I'm proposing a possible solution: I am asking every musician young, old, famous, not famous to help me to start a campaign to put and end to this practice.So many youngsters look up to us in the music world, and I feel as though we have the power to help this come about.
I will be petitioning all musicians to write songs about it or when we do our shows to address this issue.
We have seen how music has helped in all times of strife, and this time is no different. In fact it is epidemic.
We must stand together with our young people and show them that we take their cries seriously. When they take their lives it hurts us too.If you follow Twiter the hashtag will be #INK (It's Not Kool). If you follow Facebook or any other media, please pass the word to to all musicians.
It is beyond time to end this war against our children, Stand up for them. Life has enough challenges on its own without people pushing each other around. You may think it's fun but believe me, it's not kool.

First Comes Love

When I was a kid, if you wanted to embarass a fella (especially if he was trying hard to be macho and cool...), you would kill him with the following lines: "Charlie and so and so sittin' in tree, k i s s i n g, first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes Charlie with a baby carriage."
That line would completely destroy your cool; not that I was per se' but I was trying to appear that way.
Now, as an adult, I've come to realize that being cool is not all that it's cracked up to be, but that line "first comes love,' really has a deeper meaning.
What I've learned from that venerable line is that in order to really truly become good or great at what you want in life, you must learn to have a deep seeded love for it.
You can take pretty much any example and see the point of what I'm saying...let's look at Derek Jeter of the Yankees. You know that when he shows up at the ballpark he is ready for business. The team may lose, he may even be a contributor to that loss, but you will know that he is in it to win it.
Another example is cellist, Yo Yo Ma; there has never been a time when Ive seen him perform that I didn't want to go home and throw away my instrument; he just sets the bar so high, that you know as a musician, you'd better get your game face on, or give up (luckily, I'm not giving up...)
There are so many ways for you to see the point here.
It is imperative that if you strive to be in the music biz, in whatever capacity, that you give it your all, practice hard day in and day out, utilize your memory to the best of your ability, which will aid in helping you to become great. Have some humility, which goes a long way to aid your cause. Do not get embarrassed because you love something, as it may be just the uniqueness that you need to set you apart from the pack.
Cast you fate to the wind, plow forward throught the storm and find your rainbow.
Life is hard enough without your realizing that you are worthy enough to find your happiness, to achieve your dreams or to find fulfilment, but just remember that in order to get there, first comes love.

I'm really sorry that I've been away for so long, I've been a little depressed the last few months (it's a combination of many things), but I still want to share my thoughts with you because I do care...and I always will. Thank you all for all the love that you send, it does reach me.

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Deep in the heart of Texas

Sorry that I've been away for so long, the band has been seriously busy for the last few months. The new CD is out (if you haven't heard, the Carpenter Ants have released our new baby entitled "Ants and Uncles," a true labor of love...
Anyway, we are on our way toTexas to do the South by Southwest Music Festival (http://www.sxsw.com/). So far the trip down here has been a blast, we played in Nashville on Tuesday night doing an internet TV show called the Billy Block show (I'll let you know when and where you can see it...). On Wednesday night, we played in Clarksdale Mississippi, at actor Morgan  Freeman's restaurant and night club called "Ground Zero."He wasn't there if you wondered, but everyone else was, a whole lotta folks...
And now here we are deep in the heart of Texas.
Larry Groce of Mountain Stage is joining us, as well as Bill Kirchen (of Hot Rod Lincoln fame), and we are poised to rock the joint.so stay tuned.
If you've been following me on Facebook and Twitter, you know that my son Dereke and his wife Aron gave birth to a gorgeous little girl named Maryah.
I haven't really talked about my children in these pages much, but I think it's time for me to let you know how proud I am of all three of them. Jeffrey Dereke and Kendra. I've never considered myself to be a good father, truly I wasn't in their lives the way I should have been, and I've always felt guilt about that, but I'm really trying to make up for it in my life.
I'm saying all of this to say that chasing a dream is very important, but not at the expense of your relationship and love for your family.Their Mother Wilma (my first wife) and Vickie tried to drum that in my head for so many years, but fear of losing my music kept me going in that direction instead  of putting my family completely first.
I'm lucky though, my children have mostly forgiven me my shortcomings, and we are all trying to pick up from here.
Which brings me back to this post. I am so happy to be able to pursue my music with a clear conscience. I feel confident that the music of the Carpenter Ants  will reach the masses, and starting deep in the heart of Texas, we are coming to you on  dusty road.
My friends, please read and understand, that I love being a musician, but more than anything  I absolutely love being the father of my family. Call it that warm Texas air, maybe it's the dust in my lungs, but life is lookin' real good to me right now. I feel a new sense of being, and I'm ready to take the next steps starting right here right now deep in the heart of Texas.
Have a great weekend, and always know how much I love you.

This post is dedicated to my children, Jeffrey, Dereke and Kendra Dunham. and my daughter in laws Aron and Alisha...from a grateful Pop. This is also dedicated to all of my grandchildren...
I love you all more than you know.

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Real or Imagined

I'm just really saddened by the news today of the passing of Whitney Houston.
I know that she is the product of a much younger generation than mine, but as a parent and a musician, truth is, they don't often come down the pike like she did.
As many know, in recent years our sister Whitney went into serious decline from the public eye, and I'm certain that it must have hurt her to a degree to see her light fade in the way that it had. The struggle to stay well is a very hard fought one for many (believe me, I battled for years...), and it's especially difficult when you have to endure that struggle publicly.
Despite the rugged path, I had very high hopes for her,and I wished her well. Whitney always reminded me of a neighborhood girl who you know at heart was really a good soul, but when she got around certain elements they would lead her down a dark path, and much to your chagrin she would willingly follow.
Everyone of us should learn a valuable lesson here...be leaders and not followers. Demons are everywhere among us ready to take us down. If you can't lead then at least be mindful of those that you follow, and be certain that they are the right type of people to lead you.
In a span of a few weeks we've lost some of out greatest treasures from Don Cornelius and Etta James to Clarence Clemmons. It has been a blow to our musical psyches.
Real or imagined the world does spin, and in it's wake we encounter people like these who touch and enrich our lives, their music has given us hope and warmth, it has brightened our darkest days and provided us with a means to keep on.
So in their spirit and in the words of Whitney Houston always remember that I will always love you.
Whitney E.Houston 1963-2012
Goodnight Sister

Getting Older

Lately I've been listening to the "fued" between Elton John and Madonna. Seemingly it's more on Elton than the Material girl.
Here's the situation: recently at the Golden Globe Awards, these two were up for the same award, and when Madonna won, John not only became undone about it, he also completely trashed Madonna and her efforts.
Now please understand, I don't for one minute think that either one of them are by far the greatest things that entertainment world has produced. I believe though that both in their own way are talented (to whatever extent is not for me to say...at least in this sitting),but really at that level, sour grapes.
Both of them have contributed to pop culture, both have had major influences on the fabric of our lives, but sour grapes?
I am genuinely surprised at Elton John. It's hard for me to fathom him being this spoiled about an award that truly has no bearing on his stature in the music industry.
The simple fact is that we all are and will be getting older, and our time in the sun is limited at best and just because it's necessary entity we should use up this time focusing on much worthwhile things like figuring out how to change the political, spiritual and financial climate in the world.
If you've been following the political world, it is in a huge fix, these people can't agree on anything; it's an every man for himself mentality. In the spiritual realm, that climate is even darker. It's a cage match at best between all the religious factions. And yes from the standpoint of your own belief, Armeggedon could truly soon be here.
In the financial corner, and I'll say this from my own standpoint, I'm so broke I can't pay attention. you get the picture.
So why then would a man who really does have everything (at least in my mind...) get this bent out of shape? Just this morning Elton was asked about Madonna's upcoming Superbowl performance, and he made some comment about her lip singing. This is too much even for me to deal with.
When I was younger and even at the beginning of my blogging days lo those many years ago, I have dreamed of being on big stages playing my music for the masses. In truth, I still do; but I also am smart enough to know that 1. everybody is not always lucky enough to be accepted in this way, and 2. everybody is getting older, and might have to face the fact that some things must come to and end.
Elton John has been on the scene since the 70's. That's one helluva ride. He's thrown away dollars that I haven't come close to seeing. Madonna has been around since the 80's, and probably has thrown away just as much, but by comparison there is still time for her before throwing the towel.
What my two colleagues need to do is bury the hatchet, forgive each other their shortcomings and get on with it.
There is enough strife in the universe that we don't need more blood fueds. Each of these artists are different from each other; embrace it and make it work. There is no perfect song nor perfect performers. There is only emotion and feeling, and these are the only things that should be getting older.
Go out this weekend and catch some local performances. Have a good one. See ya soon.

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